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Our Thoughts Are the Seeds of Our Reality

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Our thoughts are the seeds of our reality. So it pays to be mindful of what we sow.

I just finished a 30 day meditation course on the topic of focus. It’s so fascinating to watch my mind reach for distractions just to avoid feeling or thinking about the things that it doesn’t want to. In the last year, as I’ve begun focusing on cleansing my mind, body and spirit, I discovered a subtle ripple of anxiety that still lingers in my shadows. A remnant from an emotionally turbulent childhood which often left me feeling generally unsettled and not good enough. As an adult I dedicated a lot of time distracting myself from this underlying feeling in an attempt to convince the world, and hopefully myself in the process, that I was perfectly functional, successful and happy. It felt like the easiest, quickest way to deal with it.

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What’s in a Name? Bring on the Lux!

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Names hold power. Did you know that the name Douglas comes from the Gaelic for “dark stream”? This certainly seemed to fit my early life and I spent the better part of 30 years attempting to bottle up my emotions behind a nice, neat facade. In fact I proved so good at hiding the darker side of my character that I largely forgot about it. Finally in my early 30s when the pace of my life began to slow down a little bit I began to explore some of my unresolved issues. As I grew less angry with the world I decided to start calling myself Dougie to encourage this unfolding. The name itself seemed to noticeably soften almost everyone who hears it and that makes me happy too.

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Graceful Equanimity and the Calm of a Buddha’s Smile

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This would be a great poster to help me to avoid these pitfalls, as sometimes I forget! I’m almost at day 30 of a 30 day Headspace meditation series all about “focus”… and it’s been one of the most powerful exercises yet.

I can’t understate what I’ve put myself through out here and one day I hope to share the full story (much of it in just not appropriate for Facebook without proper context… but suffice to say it’s been a true dance between my shadow and my light. This trip has blown my understanding of myself wide open, and as seems to be the pattern that comes with it, the realization that much of the real work is just getting started. That said, I already feel more patience and compassion with myself than ever before, as well as acceptance for my path and commitment to seeing it through.

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This is Your Brain on Love

Sure, it’s magic. But it’s also an impressive symphony of brain chemicals! This funny and insightful overview of what love does to you brings me back to the great Mindshare L.A.​ talk by Sena P Koleva​ at our Valentine’s Day event a few years ago!

Personally I’m a little bit of a romantic, and since it’s Valentine’s Day I couldn’t help but think about how my understanding of love has expanded over the years. I replayed the various forms of love that I’ve experienced and the relationships that have shaped me. Needless to say, this made me laugh out loud. And cry a little bit too 🙂 I even have had the honor to officiate four weddings and each time it deepened my understanding of what real love really means.

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False Prophets and Being Willing to Look Inward

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I just watched Kumaré and it’s a thought provoking and wraps up with a simple yet compelling take away 🙂 Plus it is pretty hilarious too! More info: “Kumaré is a documentary about a man who impersonates a wise Indian Guru and builds a following in Arizona. At the height of his popularity, the Guru Kumaré must reveal his true identity to his disciples and unveil his greatest teaching of all.” You might find a better quality version on Netflix but here’s a free version…

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A Trippy Little Village Called Pai

I’m in a trippy little village called Pai in the north of Thailand and I’m about to go deep. Pai kind of feels like a fantasyland. There’s restaurants for all types of diets, lots of small bars with live music, cafes serving refreshing shakes and juices and places to stay that often have fun features like art galleries or scenic sunset views. There’s even a circus school perched on the hill overlooking the town below. Like most Thai towns the street food is cheap and delicious and 1hr long Thai massages are at a record low for the trip at 150baht ($4.50! Wtf! I get one pretty much every day now. The village has a fun, creative flair and many of the walls are dotted with humorous or thought provoking murals, signage and caricatures. It’s a welcome break from city life with cleaner air and a good amount of open space, especially just outside of the main town center when it opens up into hills and paddies.

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Reality, The Shadow Self and A List of Awesome Documentaries

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So you may not know this about me but I’m a little bit of a documentary junkie. Since I have some self-prescribed, mind-expanding time on my hands right now I decided to do a little research on where to find some good online docs… And I just discovered a motherload of consciousness poking and thought provoking documentaries.

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Solitude vs. Community and Spiritual Bypassing

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FAST FOOD! Cooking your street food, while your buddy drives to the market!

Sheesh, I’ve felt uncharacteristically sad and lonely recently! As an experiment, I found an apartment down a featureless alley on the edge of Chiang Mai for the last couple of weeks. The intention was to have minimal distractions from other people, touristy adventures and to minimize any time spent on creative or professional projects, just to see how I deal with myself. I can say that during this time, I touched the edges of divine bliss and intense despair.

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When a Simple Visit to a Temple Gets Deep!

When a simple Sunday adventure to Wat Phrathat Doi Suthep, a beautiful hillside temple just outside of Chiang Mai, gets deep! As I was descending the hundreds of steps a question formed in my mind: How can I best be of service to the world, while still remaining in service to myself? I added the latter part as it was often something I neglected to do in the past. Further consideration (during an amazing Thai massage with soul sibling Roxanne Ruby smile emoticon led me to another, possibly more focused way of asking this question: How might I best use my time, energy and unique skills to most effectively expand consciousness for myself and my species?

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Keto-Cheesecake and My Inner Mother

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This morning I dropped off my buddy’s daughter at school and then picked up some ingredients for a keto-cheesecake that I’m baking for my extended family tonight. It’s not every day your buddy asks you to be the man of the house and look after his wife and daughter (not to mention goats, dogs and bunny!) when he’s away for a week. But this is exactly what happened to me and it’s been not only fun, but deeply profound to be a family man for a little while. If you are looking for a recipe for keto-cheesecake go here, otherwise if you like exploring emotions and personal growth and stuff, read on!

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