Inspiration

GhostBot Helps You Dump Bad Dates

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This is equally humorous as it is upsetting. Technology has so much potential to connect us with ourselves, others and the planet in deeper and more meaningful ways. But so often it’s basic use case attempts to be a stand in for having to deal with anything that doesn’t feel ‘good’. In this case for example, learning how to communicate like a grown up. When we no longer need to have difficult conversations that help us learn how to deal with our emotions in healthy ways then what kind of people do we become? Inept, malleable flesh bags calling out to AIs for apps and assistance? Sheesh! Sometimes WALL-E and Idiocracy look less like entertainment and more like prophetic visions. On the flip side, technology is simultaneously ushering in an unprecedented age of consciousness hacking that promises to assist us on our path of enlightenment and self-actualization. I’d ask “BUT WHICH ONE WILL WIN OUT?!” if I wasn’t such an avid supporter of duality dissolution. After all, it’s ALL a part of this crazy cosmic sitcom we call Life 🙂 Aah, now there’s a thought that REALLY feels good <3

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The Requiem for the American Dream… And What Comes Next?

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I’m not an envious person… but Noam Chomsky, one of the greatest intellectuals of our time, gives me straight up brain envy. My thought process often feels like a firehose of impulse-fueled fiction by comparison when I listen to this brilliant man recount facts, clearly outline situations and explain otherwise complex systems with lucidity and objectivity.

I recently watched “Requiem for the American Dream“, a beautifully made film which provides a good overview for many of Chomsky’s insights and explores the compounding impact of such things as as income inequality as well as how to establish independence from of the forces that seek to control us.

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Shadows and Light in The Deserts of Nevada

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THE BRIEF: I’m back in SoCal after a memorable roadtrip through the deserts of Utah and the southwest. Definitely more rough than imagined but valuable insights were gleaned 🙂 I’m relocating to the mountains near (but not too near) LA for a month near Lake Arrowhead and Big Bear area where I’ll continue to dive into some travel & fiction writing projects. I’m also looking forward to deepening my nature survival and backpacking skills!

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What is the Future of Communites?

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I’m fascinated by community projects and experiments. How do they form? How do they operate? How do they impact the lives of the members and how do they interface (or choose not to interface) with the world around them. How does each variation shed light on the future of how we will live, work, love, grow and cocreate together?

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Bark Beetles are Causing Mayhem!

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I surprised my mom for mother’s day and she was so happy. She’s a colourful character and sometimes a little hard to swallow some of her Trumpisms but I know she loves me and just wants me to be safe, happy and creatively fulfilled. I’m glad to be healing our relationship and know that by doing so it’s also healing the relationship with the part of her in myself 🙂

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My Future as a Two Marshmallow Adult

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Moving from a one marshmallow kid to a two marshmallow adult means learning how to delay gratification …and it can be a real bitch let me tell you. That said, life seems to have a habit of throwing curve balls at our plans and expectations so it seems like an important skill to master. Some of us may have had the good fortune to learn this early on from parents or other role models during our formative years. For the rest of us, it means some real dedication and often sitting in some uncomfortable ass situations while the lessons get woven into our behavior. And just when we think we’ve got it, WATCH OUT! It often seems like the moment we have the hubris to think “I’ve got this” is also the precise moment that the universe counters: “Oooooh really, let’s see how much you’ve got this!” BAM!

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Our Thoughts Are the Seeds of Our Reality

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Our thoughts are the seeds of our reality. So it pays to be mindful of what we sow.

I just finished a 30 day meditation course on the topic of focus. It’s so fascinating to watch my mind reach for distractions just to avoid feeling or thinking about the things that it doesn’t want to. In the last year, as I’ve begun focusing on cleansing my mind, body and spirit, I discovered a subtle ripple of anxiety that still lingers in my shadows. A remnant from an emotionally turbulent childhood which often left me feeling generally unsettled and not good enough. As an adult I dedicated a lot of time distracting myself from this underlying feeling in an attempt to convince the world, and hopefully myself in the process, that I was perfectly functional, successful and happy. It felt like the easiest, quickest way to deal with it.

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What’s in a Name? Bring on the Lux!

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Names hold power. Did you know that the name Douglas comes from the Gaelic for “dark stream”? This certainly seemed to fit my early life and I spent the better part of 30 years attempting to bottle up my emotions behind a nice, neat facade. In fact I proved so good at hiding the darker side of my character that I largely forgot about it. Finally in my early 30s when the pace of my life began to slow down a little bit I began to explore some of my unresolved issues. As I grew less angry with the world I decided to start calling myself Dougie to encourage this unfolding. The name itself seemed to noticeably soften almost everyone who hears it and that makes me happy too.

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Graceful Equanimity and the Calm of a Buddha’s Smile

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This would be a great poster to help me to avoid these pitfalls, as sometimes I forget! I’m almost at day 30 of a 30 day Headspace meditation series all about “focus”… and it’s been one of the most powerful exercises yet.

I can’t understate what I’ve put myself through out here and one day I hope to share the full story (much of it in just not appropriate for Facebook without proper context… but suffice to say it’s been a true dance between my shadow and my light. This trip has blown my understanding of myself wide open, and as seems to be the pattern that comes with it, the realization that much of the real work is just getting started. That said, I already feel more patience and compassion with myself than ever before, as well as acceptance for my path and commitment to seeing it through.

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This is Your Brain on Love

Sure, it’s magic. But it’s also an impressive symphony of brain chemicals! This funny and insightful overview of what love does to you brings me back to the great Mindshare L.A.​ talk by Sena P Koleva​ at our Valentine’s Day event a few years ago!

Personally I’m a little bit of a romantic, and since it’s Valentine’s Day I couldn’t help but think about how my understanding of love has expanded over the years. I replayed the various forms of love that I’ve experienced and the relationships that have shaped me. Needless to say, this made me laugh out loud. And cry a little bit too 🙂 I even have had the honor to officiate four weddings and each time it deepened my understanding of what real love really means.

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